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Main Entry: mar·riage
Pronunciation: ‘mar-ij
Function: noun
1 : the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a legal, consensual, and contractual relationship recognized and sanctioned by and dissolvable only by law —see also DIVORCE
2 : the ceremony containing certain legal formalities by which a marriage relationship is created

Ahhhh Marriage…..what everyone aspires to achieve one day. Gay or straight. Here is a spin on marriage and some statistics im sure people would be interested in.

Personally, do I want to get married one day? Sure I guess I really do. Has there ever been a time in my life I wanted to get married? Hell ya, I was ready to propose, but things didn’t turn out the way they could have. I guess worst case I would have then got a divorce shortly after.

Let’s take a look and discuss the reasons to why marriage is overrated in this day and age and why there are so many failures leading to divorce. Lets look at some world statistics.

I will just list the top 15 rates of divorce by country.

1) Belarus — 68%
2) Russian Federation — 65%
3) Sweden — 64%
4) Latvia — 63%
5) Ukraine — 63%
6) Czech Republic — 61%
7) Belgium — 56%
8) Finland — 56%
9) Lithuania — 55%
10) United Kingdom — 53%
11) Moldova — 52%
12) United States — 49%
13) Hungary — 46%
14) Canada — 45%
15) Norway — 43%

Pretty scary eh. In North America the average rate of divorce is 47%. That means that almost half of marriages fail. This is a very true statistic as I am sure you can look no farther then family and friends to see this prevalent. Personally I have been witness to a divorce rate seemingly much higher then that through personal experiences. Why do marriages fail?

I am going to say the main reasons usually listed as to why marriages fail are:

1) Money
2) Unfaithfulness (cheating etc)

While these 2 factors are more then likely the reason for most of the 47% of marriages, I believe there is a few more reasons that needs to be viewed upon by those wishing to get married.

There are reasons why the divorce rate is going up more and more each year and these are the factors that are causing it to.

First one, Girls are more independant more in todays society then they were 20 or even 30 years ago. Back in the day DIVORCE was almost unheard of back in the day. Reason for this is because a woman could never really leave the guy cause they had nowhere to go and no money to leave. SO they stayed together for all the wrong reasons. Now things are different, if things arise it is much easier for a couple to seperate as more then likely both are able to provide themselves with steady income and could live independant of one another.

Another factor is that DIVORCE is the easy way out. People don’t like confrontation (i know i know, they do but not when it gets dire) and they feel they can always take the easy way out. Disagree about who should be doing what? or what someone should be wearing?, i know lets get a divorce because we dont have to work through these problems we can take the easy way out! Sad but so true, I have known a few marriages that ended because one or the other didnt like the partner hanging out with friends and what not. Don’t like it? Time to move on….. Sad But True

While all these factors listed above are reasons why marriages go sour I think the most overlooked reason why marriages fail is because things are rushed into…. Rushed into how u ask? Let me explain.

In today’s society, there is sort of a structure. Guy and girl meets, guy and girl falls in love, guy and girl have sex, guy and girl gets married. (sex and marriage can be swapped depending on couple..even love and sex) Problem with this. Well there is a slight problem. The problem is the idea of what do we do next? Everyone knows the ultimate goal of a relationship is to have sex. (dont try to argue this it is lol) But today people are always asking themselves, what is the next step i have to take.

This is why people rush into marriage. They always feel the need that they have to take the next step, and often that next step comes too soon. When is the right time to take that step? I guess you really know if it is time, and other times people just do it because “its the next logical step”

Am I saying everyone who get’s married will get a divorce…definitely not. But I guess a marriage license should come with a Buyer Beware note on it

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